When a WIN feels like a LOSS!
Happy Mother's Day!
When a W (win) feels like a L (loss).
Today is Mother’s Day! Happy Mothers Day to the wonderful married and single Mother’s. For those of you who aren’t either (like me) today can be heavy.
I called a girlfriend last night and shared with her that I was feeling some kind of way about today. Days like today can make you think that though you declare you are #winning, that God has forgotten you and you are taking an “L”. Say this with me, “the devil is a lie!”
I want to use my truth to encourage someone that may be feeling the “Why Them and Not Me” blues 5 ways to WIN:
1. Own your feelings. Now don’t panic. You (and I) aren’t depressed or in a slump. We are just being human and expressing our feelings and that’s an emotionally healthy thing to do. Trust me that God knows our desires, and the enemy does too. In fact, it’s his job to use anything (and anyone) to kill, steal and destroy (John 10:10). He’ll begin to remind you of the sacrifices you’ve made, the seeds you’ve sown and how you've helped others, but you still don’t have what you desire. However, just know that he is doing his job, but you are immediately firing him! Stand on what you know God has promised you. Do not let the enemy shake your confidence. One of my favorite scriptures is Hebrews 10:35-36. It says, “ So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. 36 You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Selah!
2. Focus on the facts! When these feelings start coming your way, immediately focus on what you do have. With all of my being, I love my life and I’m extremely grateful for what I do have. I have worked hard to achieve what I have. My career as a Church Consultant happened by chance. I was unceremoniously downsized from my dream job and encouraged by my friends to work for myself. Happening almost 20 years ago, entrepreneurship wasn’t as prevalent as it is now and I had never heard of a church consultant but I went for it. I have failed, fallen and flat out been denied by people who didn’t want me to win, but yet I am still #winning. From a personal stand point, I was married and divorced all in the same year and counted out, but I’m still #winning. I can remember making a promise to myself that regardless if I was married or not, I would travel the world and every year since 2003, I have traveled abroad at least once a year. I have bought multiple homes and achieved a lot. I also have amazing parents who are alive and in their right mind. I have a family that loves me. I AM BLESSED!
3. Change your view. Take a reprieve from social media on days like today. Social media can be a double edge sword. It’s a great place to celebrate victories but it also can lead to comparison. Comparison can then lead to discontentment and discontentment can lead to depression. And if you aren’t careful, depression can lead you to derailment of your dreams. Instead, take this time and do something purposeful. The world will survive without you monitoring it every minute on social media. I believe if we spent less time crafting what we want people to believe about us on social media and more time living our truths and sharing that, we’d be a real blessing to them anyway.
4. Confess your faith. Those of you that know me, know that I am a huge proponent of confessions of faith. You have to say what you see, until you see what you say. According to Mark 11:23, “you shall have whatsoever you say!” Write out what you believe. Post photos of what you see for yourself. When anything other than this is what you see, you’ll know not to make this your permanent residence because this is not your destiny.
5. Live Out Loud! It’s important that as you continue to grow in your faith and #win, that you don’t shrink. Your gifts, regardless of how unique, unusual or unorthodox they may seem, are for the kingdom. 1 Peter 4:10 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” Philippians 1:25 confirms it by telling us that our gifts are for the ‘progress and joy of one another’s faith’. Be you, boldly!
I hope this helped someone today!
(God has such a sense of humor. I just received a Happy Mother’s Day text that read, “Happy Mother’s Day to someone who is nurturing me through your wisdom and knowledge. Thank you!)
Won’t God Do It!
Be Blessed and Stay Encouraged!